Genesis 31: Navigating Conflict, Embracing God's Call

Genesis 31 Scripture
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1

And he heard the words of Laban’s sons, saying, Jacob hath taken away all that was our father’s; and of that which was our father’s hath he gotten all this glory.

2

And Jacob beheld the countenance of Laban, and, behold, it was not toward him as before.

3

And the Lord said unto Jacob, Return unto the land of thy fathers, and to thy kindred; and I will be with thee.

4

And Jacob sent and called Rachel and Leah to the field unto his flock,

5

And said unto them, I see your father’s countenance, that it is not toward me as before; but the God of my father hath been with me.

6

And ye know that with all my power I have served your father.

7

And your father hath deceived me, and changed my wages ten times; but God suffered him not to hurt me.

8

If he said thus, The speckled shall be thy wages; then all the cattle bare speckled: and if he said thus, The ringstraked shall be thy hire; then bare all the cattle ringstraked.

9

Thus God hath taken away the cattle of your father, and given them to me.

10

And it came to pass at the time that the cattle conceived, that I lifted up mine eyes, and saw in a dream, and, behold, the rams which leaped upon the cattle were ringstraked, speckled, and grisled.

11

And the angel of God spake unto me in a dream, saying, Jacob: And I said, Here am I.

12

And he said, Lift up now thine eyes, and see, all the rams which leap upon the cattle are ringstraked, speckled, and grisled: for I have seen all that Laban doeth unto thee.

13

I am the God of Beth–el, where thou anointedst the pillar, and where thou vowedst a vow unto me: now arise, get thee out from this land, and return unto the land of thy kindred.

14

And Rachel and Leah answered and said unto him, Is there yet any portion or inheritance for us in our father’s house?

15

Are we not counted of him strangers? for he hath sold us, and hath quite devoured also our money.

16

For all the riches which God hath taken from our father, that is ours, and our children’s: now then, whatsoever God hath said unto thee, do.

17

Then Jacob rose up, and set his sons and his wives upon camels;

18

And he carried away all his cattle, and all his goods which he had gotten, the cattle of his getting, which he had gotten in Padan–aram, for to go to Isaac his father in the land of Canaan.

19

And Laban went to shear his sheep: and Rachel had stolen the images that were her father’s.

20

And Jacob stole away unawares to Laban the Syrian, in that he told him not that he fled.

21

So he fled with all that he had; and he rose up, and passed over the river, and set his face toward the mount Gilead.

22

And it was told Laban on the third day that Jacob was fled.

23

And he took his brethren with him, and pursued after him seven days’ journey; and they overtook him in the mount Gilead.

24

And God came to Laban the Syrian in a dream by night, and said unto him, Take heed that thou speak not to Jacob either good or bad.

25

Then Laban overtook Jacob. Now Jacob had pitched his tent in the mount: and Laban with his brethren pitched in the mount of Gilead.

26

And Laban said to Jacob, What hast thou done, that thou hast stolen away unawares to me, and carried away my daughters, as captives taken with the sword?

27

Wherefore didst thou flee away secretly, and steal away from me; and didst not tell me, that I might have sent thee away with mirth, and with songs, with tabret, and with harp?

28

And hast not suffered me to kiss my sons and my daughters? thou hast now done foolishly in so doing.

29

It is in the power of my hand to do you hurt: but the God of your father spake unto me yesternight, saying, Take thou heed that thou speak not to Jacob either good or bad.

30

And now, though thou wouldest needs be gone, because thou sore longedst after thy father’s house, yet wherefore hast thou stolen my gods?

31

And Jacob answered and said to Laban, Because I was afraid: for I said, Peradventure thou wouldest take by force thy daughters from me.

32

With whomsoever thou findest thy gods, let him not live: before our brethren discern thou what is thine with me, and take it to thee. For Jacob knew not that Rachel had stolen them.

33

And Laban went into Jacob’s tent, and into Leah’s tent, and into the two maidservants’ tents; but he found them not. Then went he out of Leah’s tent, and entered into Rachel’s tent.

34

Now Rachel had taken the images, and put them in the camel’s furniture, and sat upon them. And Laban searched all the tent, but found them not.

35

And she said to her father, Let it not displease my lord that I cannot rise up before thee; for the custom of women is upon me. And he searched, but found not the images.

36

And Jacob was wroth, and chode with Laban: and Jacob answered and said to Laban, What is my trespass? what is my sin, that thou hast so hotly pursued after me?

37

Whereas thou hast searched all my stuff, what hast thou found of all thy household stuff? set it here before my brethren and thy brethren, that they may judge betwixt us both.

38

This twenty years have I been with thee; thy ewes and thy she goats have not cast their young, and the rams of thy flock have I not eaten.

39

That which was torn of beasts I brought not unto thee; I bare the loss of it; of my hand didst thou require it, whether stolen by day, or stolen by night.

40

Thus I was; in the day the drought consumed me, and the frost by night; and my sleep departed from mine eyes.

41

Thus have I been twenty years in thy house; I served thee fourteen years for thy two daughters, and six years for thy cattle: and thou hast changed my wages ten times.

42

Except the God of my father, the God of Abraham, and the fear of Isaac, had been with me, surely thou hadst sent me away now empty. God hath seen mine affliction and the labour of my hands, and rebuked thee yesternight.

43

And Laban answered and said unto Jacob, These daughters are my daughters, and these children are my children, and these cattle are my cattle, and all that thou seest is mine: and what can I do this day unto these my daughters, or unto their children which they have born?

44

Now therefore come thou, let us make a covenant, I and thou; and let it be for a witness between me and thee.

45

And Jacob took a stone, and set it up for a pillar.

46

And Jacob said unto his brethren, Gather stones; and they took stones, and made an heap: and they did eat there upon the heap.

47

And Laban called it Jegar–sahadutha: but Jacob called it Galeed.

48

And Laban said, This heap is a witness between me and thee this day. Therefore was the name of it called Galeed;

49

And Mizpah; for he said, The Lord watch between me and thee, when we are absent one from another.

50

If thou shalt afflict my daughters, or if thou shalt take other wives beside my daughters, no man is with us; see, God is witness betwixt me and thee.

51

And Laban said to Jacob, Behold this heap, and behold this pillar, which I have cast betwixt me and thee;

52

This heap be witness, and this pillar be witness, that I will not pass over this heap to thee, and that thou shalt not pass over this heap and this pillar unto me, for harm.

53

The God of Abraham, and the God of Nahor, the God of their father, judge betwixt us. And Jacob sware by the fear of his father Isaac.

54

Then Jacob offered sacrifice upon the mount, and called his brethren to eat bread: and they did eat bread, and tarried all night in the mount.

55

And early in the morning Laban rose up, and kissed his sons and his daughters, and blessed them: and Laban departed, and returned unto his place.

Genesis 31 Commentary
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Genesis 31 tells the story of Jacob's departure from Laban after twenty years of service, marking a pivotal moment as he prepares to return to his homeland. This chapter is rich with family drama, divine guidance, and the establishment of a covenant, offering valuable insights into faith, relationships, and God's sovereign plan.

The Winds of Change (Genesis 31:1-3)

Chapter 30 detailed the growth of Jacob’s family and wealth. Now, in Genesis 31, we see the tide turning. Jacob observes that Laban's sons are resentful of his success, viewing him as a threat to their inheritance. Even more concerning, Jacob notices a change in Laban's attitude towards him (Genesis 31:2). Jacob’s continued success became an annoyance to Laban. It's a reminder that even in times of prosperity, external pressures and strained relationships can arise.

Amidst this growing tension, God intervenes. He speaks to Jacob, commanding him to return to the land of his fathers and promising His presence (Genesis 31:3). This divine directive is crucial. It highlights that even when circumstances seem driven by human conflict, God is actively orchestrating events to fulfill His purposes. God was using the conflict to call Jacob back to the land of his fathers and to his family. God often allows conflicts to create new directions in our lives, breaking off relationships with those who are not moving toward Him so that we can pursue Him with greater focus.

A Family United in Purpose (Genesis 31:4-16)

Knowing he must leave, Jacob understands the importance of his wives' support. He calls Rachel and Leah together and lays out his case. He recounts Laban's deceitful practices and God's clear instruction to return home (Genesis 31:4-13). Jacob revealed his plans to his wives, letting them know that God Himself had commanded him to leave this land and return to his native land (Genesis 31:13).

Rachel and Leah, despite their own history of rivalry, recognize the truth in Jacob's words. They express their frustration with their father's treatment and acknowledge that they have no future inheritance with him (Genesis 31:14-16). Their agreement to follow Jacob demonstrates a united front, highlighting the strength of family bonds when aligned with God's will. Rachel and Leah responded by following Jacob’s leadership (Genesis 31:16), proving that the best way for a man to lead his wife is by communicating where God is leading him.

The Silent Departure (Genesis 31:17-30)

Fearing Laban's potential resistance, Jacob chooses to leave without informing him. He gathers his family, flocks, and possessions and sets out towards Canaan (Genesis 31:17-21). Jacob rallied his family and his flocks and left, not telling Laban that he was fleeing (Genesis 31:20).

Three days later, Laban discovers Jacob's departure and, angered by what he perceives as a betrayal, pursues him with his kinsmen (Genesis 31:22-23). Laban didn’t realize what had happened until three days later (Genesis 31:22), but as soon as he did, he rushed after Jacob (Genesis 31:23). A week later the two parties met, and Laban scolded Jacob for sneaking away, taking his daughters away like prisoners of war (Genesis 31:26). However, God intervenes once again, warning Laban in a dream not to speak harshly to Jacob (Genesis 31:24). This divine intervention underscores God's protection over Jacob and His control over the situation.

Laban confronts Jacob, accusing him of stealing his daughters and, most importantly, his household gods (Genesis 31:26-30). What had most irked Laban, however, was the disappearance of his household gods (Genesis 31:30), which Rachel had stolen on their way out of town (see Genesis 31:19). Perhaps she took them because she, like her father, believed they brought good luck. Perhaps she was just paying her father back for the terrible way he had treated her and Jacob. Either way, her theft was risky.

The Search and the Accusation (Genesis 31:31-42)

Unaware that Rachel has stolen the idols, Jacob vehemently denies the accusation and even declares that anyone found with them should die (Genesis 31:31-32). This rash statement unknowingly puts Rachel in grave danger.

Laban searches the tents, but Rachel cleverly conceals the idols by hiding them under her camel saddle and claiming she cannot rise due to her menstrual cycle (Genesis 31:33-35). She was only able to cover it up by stashing the idols under a saddle, sitting on it, and explaining that she was having her period (Genesis 31:35) and therefore couldn’t rise.

Frustrated and indignant, Jacob finally unleashes his pent-up anger and recounts the years of hard labor and unfair treatment he endured under Laban's employment (Genesis 31:36-41). Jacob, unaware that Rachel really had committed this crime, went on a counter-attack against Laban. He chronicled all of the ways that he had worked hard for Laban while Laban only took advantage of him (Genesis 31:38-41). He emphasizes that only God's blessing has allowed him to prosper despite Laban's attempts to cheat him.

The Covenant of Separation (Genesis 31:43-55)

Laban, realizing he cannot reclaim his daughters and possessions, proposes a covenant to establish a boundary between them. He acknowledges that Jacob's daughters, grandchildren, and flocks are technically his, but he won't fight for them because of God's warning (Genesis 31:43). Laban remained unmoved, responding, "the daughters [you took] are my daughters, the sons, my sons; and the flocks, my flocks (Genesis 31:43)—which was not true, as he had given the daughters in marriage and agreed to give Jacob the speckled flocks. But realizing that he couldn’t weasel his way out of this situation, Laban tried to limit the loss, proposing that a covenant be made between them (Genesis 31:44).

The terms of the covenant stipulate that neither Jacob nor Laban will cross the boundary to harm each other (Genesis 31:52). The terms of the covenant were meant to keep Jacob and Laban apart (Genesis 31:52), and God was at work through Laban’s covenant to finally end the connection between the two men. They build a heap of stones as a memorial and share a meal together, symbolizing their agreement (Genesis 31:45-54). Finally, Laban departs, and Jacob continues his journey towards the Promised Land (Genesis 31:55).

Reflections on Genesis 31

Genesis 31 offers several key takeaways:

  • God's Sovereignty: Even in complex family dynamics and business dealings, God is actively working to fulfill His purposes. He guides, protects, and directs Jacob's steps towards his destiny.
  • The Importance of Family Unity: Jacob's ability to secure his wives' support was crucial for his departure. Unity within the family, especially when grounded in faith, provides strength and resilience.
  • Facing Conflict with Integrity: Jacob's initial silence was motivated by fear, but he ultimately confronted Laban with honesty and courage. While Rachel's deception protected them in the moment, it also highlights the potential consequences of dishonesty.
  • God's Provision and Blessing: Despite Laban's attempts to cheat him, Jacob prospered through God's favor. This reminds us that God can bless us even in difficult circumstances.
  • New Beginnings: Jacob's departure from Laban marks a new chapter in his life. He is now free to pursue God's calling in the Promised Land, although challenges still lie ahead, particularly his impending encounter with Esau.

Genesis 31 is a powerful reminder that God is with us as we navigate life's complexities. He guides us, protects us, and empowers us to embrace new beginnings, even when those beginnings are born out of conflict and adversity. As Jacob journeyed toward his destiny, so too can we trust in God's faithfulness as we pursue His calling in our lives.